Bridie Bhoy
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We're here for you. Do you need any help?Struggling
We're here for you. Do you need any help?Struggling
Just can’t seem to get a balance mate. Since January 22nd 2020 when my dad passed. Wee man always saw me rightWe're here for you. Do you need any help?
It is very hard to get over the loss of your father. It is particularly difficult at anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas and the like. You will have a lot of excellent memories to cherish - some funny and some sad.Just can’t seem to get a balance mate. Since January 22nd 2020 when my dad passed. Wee man always saw me right
Bb you are a righteous and beautiful soul. I’m trying my best to support my family, emotionally, we’ve had a wee run of tough stuff. Think that’s why I’m struggling now. I miss touching base wi ma da.It is very hard to get over the loss of your father. It is particularly difficult at anniversaries, birthdays, Christmas and the like. You will have a lot of excellent memories to cherish - some funny and some sad.
It will help if you have family or friends who knew him to speak about him having a laugh and cry. If it is his advice you are missing then maybe one of them can step in to help?
It may be that you need help from a trained counsellors. There are a number of helplines set up that you can call on freephone. There are no magic words that will bring him back but these people are trained to listen and give advice. They can suggest wee tips that you can try to help cope better.
It is not a sign of weakness to admit you are struggling and look for support. This is your first step to trying to move on. The grieving process hits everyone differently but there are many others who are going through similar feelings. By getting these feelings under control does not mean you have care less - the love is still there as deep as ever.
YNWA
It has been a very tough time for many people over the last 3 years. I will admit I have struggled a couple of times over this period (I was pretty ill for the first few weeks of this year so this undiagnosed illness was probably a contributing factor - a long overdue change of lifestyle for me to look after myself better).Bb you are a righteous and beautiful soul. I’m trying my best to support my family, emotionally, we’ve had a wee run of tough stuff. Think that’s why I’m struggling now. I miss touching base wi ma da.
a wise man said. honestly I’m fortunate in so many ways with family, friends and work. Just gotten to a point this week when it’s not enough to keep moving in the right direction. I know it’s not a permanent feeling but it weighs heavy. Thanks for reducing the load. I’m ready to sleep now which I haven’t felt for a whileIt has been a very tough time for many people over the last 3 years. I will admit I have struggled a couple of times over this period (I was pretty ill for the first few weeks of this year so this undiagnosed illness was probably a contributing factor - a long overdue change of lifestyle for me to look after myself better).
So to lose your Dad during this time will have been especially hard. I'm sure you are doing better than you think so keep Be honest with your family to let them know you are struggling and they can help support you too. The old macho attitude of men having to keep a stiff upper lip by bottling things up is not good for your long term mental wellbeing so share your concerns with others you can trust. If it might. Be affecting your work and your boss and/or colleagues are open and trustworthy then let them know too so they can give you some support.
Good to hear your feeling a bit better today mate. In time the feeling of loss will pass and the overiding feeling of pride will replace your current state of play. Of course the sadness of never having them here again will always remain but for me personally Celtic is a gift my Dad thankfully gave me and just one reminder to me that the big man is always with me.This morning is as good as I’ve felt in a fair while. Appreciate the support here and the lovely message I received. Take care of yourselves guys and if it’s a bit tough and you feel able to, then this thread is as good a place as any for a wee release.
Glad ye are better today man.This morning is as good as I’ve felt in a fair while. Appreciate the support here and the lovely message I received. Take care of yourselves guys and if it’s a bit tough and you feel able to, then this thread is as good a place as any for a wee release.
Glad to hear that mate, sometimes all it needs is a word said and a burden can be lifted, we are always here to offer advice when needed, there are some wonderful people on this forum as I found out myself a while back, even if you want to pm something to someone no one on here would ignore it of that I'm sure.This morning is as good as I’ve felt in a fair while. Appreciate the support here and the lovely message I received. Take care of yourselves guys and if it’s a bit tough and you feel able to, then this thread is as good a place as any for a wee release.
Little bit by little bit TT.This morning is as good as I’ve felt in a fair while. Appreciate the support here and the lovely message I received. Take care of yourselves guys and if it’s a bit tough and you feel able to, then this thread is as good a place as any for a wee release.
Thanks Mag. Was good to let it out a bit last night. Got my hoops on and will be watching the Celtic and thinking of dad. He loved the Celts.Good to hear your feeling a bit better today mate. In time the feeling of loss will pass and the overiding feeling of pride will replace your current state of play. Of course the sadness of never having them here again will always remain but for me personally Celtic is a gift my Dad thankfully gave me and just one reminder to me that the big man is always with me.
Well done to BB for his kindness and keep going mate..HH
Thanks RichyGlad ye are better today man.
That was exactly it 50. Had to just let out a bit. And thankfully someone was there to pick me up. Not surprised on here but still had a really good impact for me.Glad to hear that mate, sometimes all it needs is a word said and a burden can be lifted, we are always here to offer advice when needed, there are some wonderful people on this forum as I found out myself a while back, even if you want to pm something to someone no one on here would ignore it of that I'm sure.
H.H mate and keep strong.
Cheers PODLittle bit by little bit TT.
I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better today mate. You will have good days and bad days but eventually the good ones will outnumber the bad ones.This morning is as good as I’ve felt in a fair while. Appreciate the support here and the lovely message I received. Take care of yourselves guys and if it’s a bit tough and you feel able to, then this thread is as good a place as any for a wee release.
Thanks Miktim.I’m glad you’re feeling a bit better today mate. You will have good days and bad days but eventually the good ones will outnumber the bad ones.
When the bad ones are weighing heavy on you remember there are good people on here who are more than willing to help with the burden YNWA
Good to hear TTQ and hope you got a wee kipThis morning is as good as I’ve felt in a fair while. Appreciate the support here and the lovely message I received. Take care of yourselves guys and if it’s a bit tough and you feel able to, then this thread is as good a place as any for a wee release.
It’s been 3 years since ma maw passed, was very close to her, anytime I feel low (which can be often ) I get a bunch of flowers and head down to the graveyard and just talk to her…… I know it sounds crazy, but in my head I can hear her talking back, give me the assurance and wee gee up that she would have done many, many time over a cup of tea at the kitchen tableJust can’t seem to get a balance mate. Since January 22nd 2020 when my dad passed. Wee man always saw me right
Nothing crazy about it BB you are doing what helps you through it and will be familiar to many ..HHIt’s been 3 years since ma maw passed, was very close to her, anytime I feel low (which can be often ) I get a bunch of flowers and head down to the graveyard and just talk to her…… I know it sounds crazy, but in my head I can hear her talking back, give me the assurance and wee gee up that she would have done many, many time over a cup of tea at the kitchen table